When I was approached to write a chapter for OVERCOMER, the collaborative book project by Elite Foundation, I was apprehensive.
I was still struggling with the death of my mother and the death of my dear friend. It was too close and too raw.
Nevertheless, after careful consideration, I realized that it had to be done and I accepted.
I owe a debt of gratitude to the Elite Foundation Publishers for taking a chance on me and allowing my voice to be heard during such a time as this.
Dr. Jessica Vera and the entire Elite Foundation Team allowed me to write without worry.
As they worked on the back end, I was able to craft my story without limitations.
The collaborative book project was truly a labor of love.
As I sat down to write a piece of my story, I realized that what I share will have a big impact on someone’s life.
I could have written about any one of my challenges, setbacks or obstacles. But right now, in this moment, the world is crying out.
With so many of us experiencing loss of one kind or another, I had to speak to this pain.
I wrote, A Moment Alone to Grieve.
I did not know that grief was about to cover the globe like a tsunami.
I could not visualize that a small virus was about to cause so many people to face devastating loss of one kind or another.
I was unable to comprehend the depression and painful emotions that would soon be experienced, not by hundreds, but by millions.
All I knew was that I had been grieving for years and, as painful as it was, I had to push myself to get the message out.
Why this story and why now?
Because I was lost.
I thought I had finished grieving and hurting from the loss of my mother, Pearl, followed by the loss of my dear friend Peggy.
Then Coronavirus arrived and that caught every one of us unprepared.
I had no idea of the devastating loss that followed. No one did.
I certainly didn't know how long it would last. No one does.
What I knew was that even before the Novel Covid-19 pandemic was going to be over, people were going to be lost. Just as I was.
I had experienced loss before. Many times in fact. But it wasn’t until 4-1/2 years of walking around in a deep, dark cave, feeling guilt, sadness, pain, doubt, and many more strong emotions that I had an epiphany.
I understood that every painful episode I went through during my life, where I experienced some form of grief, was preparing me for the big one.
I wrote my story to help you move through grief without ignoring it or being completely overwhelmed by it.
It's Okay to Grieve
Some of you may feel you are facing a mountain, others a fire, still others a storm. No two experiences will be the same.
Each stage of grieving will have you doubting yourself and doubting God.
There will be more questions than answers. There will be more downs than ups.
That gaping hole in your heart is something you will experience at least once in your lifetime. Some of you even more than once.
With time, the hole will close, but the wound will remain. The scars are your reminder.
This is the Big One
You've lost before, but this time it's big.
The only one way you can make sense of your loss is to go through the grieving process.
Without the journey of passing through the different passages of grief, you will never heal.
You can and will come back from your biggest loss, but only if you allow yourself to heal from the pain and suffering that always follows the end of what was a constant and familiar part of your life.
You Are an Overcomer
On June 6, 2020 we launched OVERCOMER: Redeemed Masterpiece. It was an exciting end to an incredible journey.
Myself and 14 powerful authors have shared their stories and their voices so that someone, somewhere, can be helped with their own experience.
Know this, you are an overcomer. Whether you believe it or not.
You may be looking for hope, change, or understanding of what you are going through. Some of you are trying to wrap your head around what you have gone through.
This book can help.
Every story in OVERCOMER is a prayer for you.
I pray that it will help you move through grief without ignoring it or being completely overwhelmed by it. You can fight all you want, but without the grieving process there is no complete healing.
I pray that you will give yourself permission to grieve.
Know this, it’s okay to grieve. You have lost, but you will also have gained so much more.
You are not alone in your grief.
Please feel free to leave a comment or to reach out if you want more information on the grief process. We will be happy to assist you.